Do your kids experience faith exclusion? Get practical advice to encourage and strengthen the faith of your children in the face of rejection.

8 Ways to Help Your Child Deal With Faith Exclusion

In our look at the final beatitude, we already discussed how we should respond to persecution; but what about our when our children face rejection for being Christians? Today I am excited to have Julie from Unmasking the Mess here to share her thoughts on this topic.

The relationship had lasted nine months, and in the sand, a purity line was etched. All parties had agreed until a summer affair had crossed the line. My daughter had left for a mission trip, and her relationship seemed sound and sturdy, but when they returned, new expectations came into place.

When she declared her toes would not step over the lines of purity, the boy quickly fled to find another girl who would ruffle the sheets of the bed.

As the days and weeks went on, my daughter became labeled as the “good Christian girl” who wouldn’t sleep with a boy.

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.

We know words and labels do cut, and hearts do break. Rejection causes pain which can last longer than any physical pain will.

Do your kids experience faith exclusion? Get practical advice to encourage and strengthen the faith of your children in the face of rejection.

Standing Out for Christ

My husband was the only Christian boy on his public school bus route. On two different occasions, he was beaten up by an older kid on the bus.

The reason: he was Christian.

Nowadays, with the attention brought to bullying, we are led to believe stuff like this doesn’t happen. While we hope it doesn’t, we know from my example of my daughter, it still does.

The reality is, our kids will feel the effects of being Christians in a sinful world. So how do we encourage, inspire and protect them as they grow in faith?

What does God say about standing out?

In His word, God tells us that we are to stand out. We shouldn’t fit in with culture, it’s what makes us Christian and set apart.

(Romans 12:2, NLT).
2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

We weren’t meant to fit in; we were made to fulfill God’s calling.

Why does God want us to stand out?

We can’t show and lead people to Christ when we are blending in with the rest of society.

It’s a test of faith. Do we believe God will provide and protect us as we live apart?

When we do suffer harm or hurt from letting our light shine, God will reward us, and it won’t last long compared to eternity.

We won’t know God’s will for our lives if we blend into the mold of society.

But God doesn’t call us to be comfortable. He calls us to trust Him so completely that we are unafraid to put ourselves in situations where we will be in trouble if He doesn’t come through. ~Francis Chan

Our kids and we don’t have to do this alone for we have the Holy Spirit within us enabling us to have the strength and power to stand out.

Practical ways to encourage our kids to stand out

1. Model to them a living faith***this is the top way
2. Using Bible verses to support them
3. Study the Bible together
4. Pray for them and with them
5. Encourage them to be a part of a Christian youth group
6. Lead them to choose Christian friends
7. Study, watch videos or use curriculum that encompasses bold Christians
8. Show them places where they can serve others
Each of us was born to stand out. God had His eyes on us before we were conceived to fulfill His divine purpose for us.

The truth is our kids will always face rejection due to their faith. It’s promised us in the Bible. So it’s all the more important to teach our kids the tools to use when they encounter it, so they won’t be discouraged and despair.


Do your kids experience faith exclusion? Get practical advice to encourage and strengthen the faith of your children in the face of rejection.

Julie Loos is the mom of 5 kids and has been happily married to Greg for 17 years. She loves to read, eat chocolate, drink iced tea and spend time writing in the midst of messes. You can find her blog at and on Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram, and on Twitter @juliealoos.

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15 thoughts on “8 Ways to Help Your Child Deal With Faith Exclusion

  1. Truthfully this is one of the reasons my husband and I chose to homeschool. We wanted to ensure our children have a solid and firm foundation in who they are in Christ before sending them into a world that with judge, belittle, and patronize their beliefs. We want them to be able to be the stand out Christians as they get older with the understanding that that means our family sacrifices now to make it happen.

  2. I love how you highlight and emphasize that we need to be a model for our kids. It’s amazing how our living faith can show them the worthiness of Christ. It’s a high calling but a beautiful one. Great words, Julie! 🙂

    • Dani- In reality, I screw up my modeling more than I get it right! So my kids see a real, broken person that needs God’s grace every day. It’s the greatest calling I have!

  3. Thanks for writing this, Julie. Our kids need to be taught from an early age that being a Christian isn’t all pink fluffy unicorns dancing on rainbows. My kids have already experienced the sting of this kind of rejection. After helping them through it, I saw them stand more firm in their personal walk with God.

    • Kelly- I think that’s a great point. We need to teach them this walk is hard, but we will be rewarded for staying steadfast and faithful at the end of life.
      I’m so glad your kids have grown in faith through their experience!

  4. I want you to tell your husband I’m sorry that happened. Christian children will have to be strong in the Lord these days. I am even rejected by Christians, and have been for a long time. I know the hurt, but I know His healing.

    • Rebecca- Thank you! Persecution isn’t just for those living in other countries, it happens here.
      I’m so glad you have received His healing for your hurt! We will be hurt often as we walk in faith, but God tells us He will reward us if we stand steadfast and faithful!

  5. I remember being labeled as a child all throughout school, I remember that it hurt. I also remember rebelling in college and learning that the consequences of those actions hurt too. It’s hard to watch our children being rejected, which I think might be one of the reasons God has us experience it as well, to remind our children that they are not alone and to show them how to handle it.

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